Have you ever been caught? Most of us have. Maybe you’ve been caught doing something you are ashamed of like looking at porn or masturbating—or sexual behaviors with even greater consequences like having an affair or an anonymous encounter. Getting caught in such activities brings serious consequences: a broken marriage, loss of a ministry position, or even arrest. Even our most “minor indiscretions” can damage relationships and cause an almost irreparable loss of trust.
For a long time, I thought exposure was the worst thing that could happen to me and that the key to avoiding consequences was to not get caught. This way of thinking drove me deeper into hiding and forced me to great lengths rationalizing behaviors and justifying deception. Continue reading
I tend to agree with Augustine’s statement that “Wherever truth may be found it belongs to the Lord” or as most folks paraphrase it today, “All truth is God’s truth.” As a Christian and a recovering sex addict who has found much of God’s truth in the 12 Steps, I have no illusion that the 12 Steps are directly inspired by God, the “Big Book” should be added to the Canon, or that AA or any other 12 Step fellowship claiming a “God of our own understanding” as its “Higher Power” (or HP as some irreverently abbreviate) is a “Christian” program. This article published over 20 years ago in Christianity Today clarifies the relationship between secular recovery programs and the Christian faith.
However, I do find much inspiration, yes “God’s truth,” in program literature. Here are a couple quotes worth pondering from “The Solution.” Meditate on these gems:
The central fact of our lives today is the absolute certainty that our Creator has entered into our hearts and lives in a way which is indeed miraculous. He has commenced to accomplish those things for us which we could never do by ourselves. (AA 4th ed., 25)
What seemed at first a flimsy reed, has proved to be the loving and powerful hand of God. A new life has been given us or, if you prefer, “a design for living” that really works. (AA 4th ed., 28)